Wednesday, July 23, 2008


What She Said.

Neither staying nor going ever prevent the heart from breaking. All we can hope to influence is in what place and under what conditions the heart breaks open, because it will: unavoidably, regularly, and without concern for whatever else we might wish to be doing.

Art found here.


Anonymous said...

Thanks for this article on shopping, illness and the NYT.

I've worked for almost 20 years as a financial planner, and I can tell you it is one uphill battle to get a lot of women to even open up an IRA.

I've coached women on how to negotiate higher salaries, and to set up a plan where they have one year's fixed expenses set aside in case of a lay off or serious illness.

Every woman out there should be working with a team of experts, because you'll get a lot of support with taxes (CPA), bankers, and people will help analyze credit card offers. There are thousands of professionals out there who can do this.

Every person I've even met with a net worth over $2 million dollars works with people like that. They are not do-it-yourselfers. And they didn't start out rich either. Most of these people got started early, but they made it a habit to save, and stay away from frivolous consumer buying.

Talk to grandparents who are experts at money management. Make sure your family is protected with life insurance. Take your life seriously. You can do all this on your own, or you can work with experts, or you can read and work with experts. Just get out there and do this now!

This situation need not continue with women and money and low pay. Get another opinion, so someone can see your personal financial issues afresh.

If you don't have a retirement plan or a one year emergency fund, then cut out the make-up, nail salons, Starbucks and other items until you build this up.

Women get advice and get help and do it now. Don't wait for something terrible to happen.

While I agree that the stupid marketing to women is very dangerous, I also know that I talk to women all the time, and it is very hard to get through to a lot of them until something really bad happens. It goes both ways, and all issues must be covered well in advance.

No one I've worked with for more than a year or so, ever stays in a dead end job with below average income. We kick butt and get it jump started!

Talk to self-made people, or working class people who got out of that class. They are the best examples of how this is done.

Anonymous said...

Just want to say how much I enjoy the beauty and complexity of this blog.

When I need a moment of sheer inspiration, beauty, music or politics, I always make this a stop en route to great espresso!

Thanks for doing this!!